5 Signs That You Might Be a Control Girl
February 23, 2018
Are you a Control Girl? It's easy to spot control issues in other women. It's a little harder to spot them in the mirror. That's where this quiz can help.

Here are five signs that you (like me) might be a Control Girl:

1. Do you struggle with anger? Do you erupt when something doesn't go your way? Do you lose your cool over even small, insignificant interruptions? Do you inwardly (or outwardly) seethe at people who make your life difficult or disagree with you--even over small things?

2. Do you struggle with worry or anxiety? Are you gripped with fear over the future? Do you fret about your own safety or the safety of those you love? Do you obsess over small concerns because you're worried about where they will lead? Do you tend to project into the future, consider all the what-ifs, and overreact?

3. Are you irritated by other controlling people? Is there a controlling person in your life who deeply frustrates you? Are you more bothered by this person than others are? Do you react in a passive-aggressive manner when a controlling person gives you no choice or violates your "turf"?

4. Do friends or family members send subtle hints? Do others give tactful clues that they'd like you to back off? Do they ever roll their eyes and say, "I got it, the first six times, Mom!" or "I can handle it myself, thank you"? If we cornered the people who love you most, would they privately admit that you are pushy or overbearing?

5. Are you rigidly perfectionistic? Do you obsess over every calorie, every cent, or every minute spent? Are you a perfectionist with your home, your car, your appearance, or your work? Do you feel peace only when you have everything under control? Do others think of you as rigid and inflexible?

So, How Did You Do?
Did you answer yes to some of the questions? Most? Do you think you might be a Control Girl?
If so, don't despair. I have good news for you. Ready? Here it is:
No woman has to be a Control Girl.

Yes, women tend to have a bent toward wanting control, but God offers us another option. Another path. He invites us to a life of surrender. To say, as Jesus did, "Not my will, but yours be done."
If you're a woman who doesn't want to spend life stressed out, anxious, fretful, and angry as you try to control what only God can, my book is written for you.
It's a Bible study titled Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible. My hope, as you study through the book, is to remind you that God is in control, so you don't have to be.

Ready to dig in? Why not invite some friends to join you! We have all the tools you need (including a free leader's discussion guide) for pulling together your own Control Girl study group here.
Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible
Shannon Popkin
The author shares from her own struggles and follows each Bible study with questions for personal reflection. In the end, controlling women will find insight into their own experience, peace in the knowledge that God is in control, and relief that they are free. 

Author Shannon Popkin knows this struggle inside and out. Keeping her inner Control Girl hidden is a full-time job. Thankfully, she also knows another very important truth: no woman has to be a Control Girl.